Which one are you? Are you In Control or are you a Victim? We could write a book on this subject. Oh wait, there are hundreds already written. So many books written on the subject of management or leadership have the same premise. The great books already were written in the 1920s through the 1950s.

The key is, what are you going to do with the information after you have read it?

We have all heard the saying that the idea is 10 percent and the implementation is 90 percent.

The same holds true for what is written in the chart below.

What are you going to do to become a great leader or manager?

Greatness takes time, learning, practicing and wanting to reach new heights. If you are doing the same thing and not changing, you are not growing or excelling.

You are not alone if you say “Geez, I want to lose weight or get in shape.” The same holds true for saying “I really want to be a great leader.”

The first stage is admitting you want to get better at something. The next phase is to learn the subject at hand and finally changing the behavior to surpass where you are presently.

The words in this chart are not going to change you, but what you do over time will. It reminds me of the movie with Bill Murray called “What About Bob?” The famous line was the simple phrase, “baby steps,” where Bob (Murray) and his psychiatrist Dr. Marvin (Richard Dreyfuss) talked about setting small reasonable goals one day at a time. Taking one tiny step at a time. Baby steps.

There’s no rush to the finish line but how you get there is what is most important. Do you have the understanding and willingness to do this? If so, take an honest look at yourself and see what needs to be changed and what it will take for you to change the behavior. When you do (if you do) it is not for the moment, but the long term.

Think of it as speeding down the highway and you see a cop on the side of the road. You slow it down and go “Whew, I didn’t get in trouble this time.”

Then, within a mile or two you are back to the original speed that made you go “Whew.”

The key is to not speed but to change your behavior and stay within the speed limit. You can’t do this at the moment you think you might have gotten caught speeding. You need to do it all the time.

Once you change the behavior, you will no longer speed.

I don’t think that the words in this chart need explanation or need to be discussed at any great length. To me, they are pretty much “Am I or Am I not.” This is just one aspect of incredible management or leadership and hopefully you will continue to seek out other thoughts on the subject and make them your own.

Learning can be fun especially when you witness the results first hand.